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Of the great equalizer {Educated by Tara Westover}



Of the great equalizer, education.

About Educated by Tara Westover: Tara Westover was seventeen the first time she set foot in a classroom. Born to survivalists in the mountains of Idaho, she prepared for the end of the world by stockpiling supplies and sleeping with her “head for the hills” bag. In the summer she stewed herbs for her mother, a midwife and healer, and in the winter she salvaged in her father’s junkyard.

Her father forbade hospitals, so Tara never saw a doctor or a nurse. Gashes and concussions, even burns from explosions, were all treated at home with herbalism. The family was so isolated from mainstream society that there was no one to intervene when her brother became violent or when her father’s Mormon beliefs drifted toward the extreme.

Then, lacking any formal education, Tara began to educate herself. She ultimately taught herself enough mathematics and grammar to be admitted to Brigham Young University, where she studied history, learning for the first time about important world events such as the Holocaust. Her quest for knowledge transformed her, taking her over oceans and across continents, to Harvard and to Cambridge. Only then would she wonder if there was still a way home.

A riveting account of the struggle for self-invention, Educated is also a tale of fierce family loyalty and of the grief that comes with severing the closest of ties.

My two cents

I don’t know how many times I audibly gasped reading Tara Westover’s autobiography! When people talk of overcoming adversity and challenges, sometimes it’s hard to understand just how it really is. However, in this memoir, Westover doesn’t sugarcoat a thing. She recalls a a traumatic childhood of hard labour, abuse, and neglect in a family dealing with mental illness. Reading all this is tough, but it drives home the point that this is a reality for many of those who live in rural America.

What makes this particularly ingratiating is that Westover doesn’t seem to have an ounce of self pity as she tells her story. Nor does she seem to bear a grudge on her family members who perpetuated the cycle of abuse, neglect, and simply holding her back.

Often we talk about the importance of exposure and education to better ourselves. Bill Gates talks about this memoir in glowing terms. Check out his review and a video of his chat with Westover.

What particularly struck me was when Westover says:
“I worry that education is becoming a stick that some people use to beat other people into submission or becoming something that people feel arrogant about,” she said. “I think education is really just a process of self-discovery—of developing a sense of self and what you think. I think of [it] as this great mechanism of connecting and equalizing.”

Verdict: I recommend reading this honest and matter-of-fact storytelling of her journey from illiterate country hick to a life of learning, believing in herself and her innate capabilities. Truly, you can’t keep a good woman down.



The Dangerous Alphabet by Neil Gaiman

The Dangerous Alphabet by Neil Gaiman


I decided to read this because: the little one wanted to read it. I also seem to be on a Neil Gaiman run at the moment. So one more won't hurt.

First line: A is for always, that's where we embark.

I liked: I knew right off thathis book was definitely not for the smaller ones. But then Gaiman has a darkness that seems to either be liked or hated, nothing in between. An older child (10 or older) would probably like it as it is funny, clever and gruesome in a Tim Burton kind of way. My 11-year-old liked it though she says that she found it a bit boring.

There are 13 rhyming couplets which tell the story of brother and sister and their pet gazelle. Sneaking past their father, they board a small boat, and the stream takes them into a mysterious underworld adventure where they face all manner of horrors - monsters, trolls and other scary things - to find the treasure.

Neil Gaiman got himself an illustrator (Gris Grimly -- is this his real name? Isn't the coincidence uncanny?) that matches his dark humor and the images are surreal, spidery, sepia-ed and non-cute. Look closely and there are monsters and maggots and all the good creepy stuff of Halloween. The story just wouldn't be the same without the illustrations to bring home the point.

I didn't like: The storyline isn't that obvious for a small child. Nonetheless, this isn't a way to teach very young ones the alphabet as it is an "incorrect" alphabet to start with (heehee). But hey, this is a modified alphabet so there was some leeway with some of the letters (e.g., W comes before V where "warnings" before "vile deeds"). 

Verdict: A witty alphabet with wonderfully creepy illustrations that will haunt and delight older readers.

Coraline by Neil Gaiman


Synopsis of Coraline by Neil Gaiman*: "Coraline discovered the door a little while after they moved into the house. . . ." When Coraline steps through a door to find another house strangely similar to her own (only better), things seem marvelous. But there's another mother there, and another father, and they want her to stay and be their little girl. They want to change her and never let her go. Coraline will have to fight with all her wit and courage if she is to save herself and return to her ordinary life.

My two cents 

I decided to read this because: I watched Coraline, the movie. I loved the movie, so of course I had to read the book. {Watch Coraline online here.}

The book in one sentence: Coraline, an unhappy girl with too-busy parents, stumbles onto an alternate reality where things work out the way she wants them to, until she realizes the horrors of things that are indeed too good to be true.

First line: Coraline discovered the door a little while after they moved into the house.


I liked

The whole concept of the book. This book has been said to be a modern-day take on Alice in Wonderland. The door to the "better" world is to the rabbit hole, separating reality and a fantasy world. And while Coraline isn't the nice innocent Alice, you know that with a name like hers (it's Cora-LINE, not Caroline) that she is a unique character and bound to get into trouble.

There is a fantasy to the story line: be careful what you wish for ... you just might get it! Every child wishes they had nicer parents. And this book indulges that fantasy. Coraline enters an alternate reality where her "other" parents give her the time she craves, the things she wants, the food she loves. Her "Other Mother" is seemingly perfect and it isn't surprising that Coraline returns to this other world to satisfy herself.

But slowly, the fantasy shows itself to be too good to be true. I really enjoyed the creepiness of the book, as it slowly seeps in. If I were younger I would probably be scared to sleep alone immediately following reading this. The "Other Mother" slowly reveals who she really is, and you slowly realize -- with some dread -- that she is the villain of the story. (And sewing buttons on your eyes - is it just me, but isn't this morbid? I would think differently about buttons!) 

Coraline eventually learns that her "Other Mother" will never let her go once she gives in, and she will never see her real parents again. She also discovers that other children are trapped there too. The quest no longer just becomes to save herself, her parents, and life as she knew it, but about these lost souls who are the very picture of what Coraline could become.

Worth mentioning are the fantastic illustrations, which in black and white, lend even more creepiness!

Don't be surprised if your child becomes extra nice to you after reading this book. That's how it will scare him/her into realizing what a perfect mom/dad you really are!

I didn't like

I actually didn't expect to like this book as Neil Gaiman has a penchant for the dark and sinister. And indeed, this book isn't for everyone.

Verdict: Highly readable, fast action, and a mixture of horror and great morals. I wouldn't recommend this for very young kids (say below 10) as it is really scary! Surprisingly though, I found the movie to be less scary than the book.

Book facts: The book has won numerous awards, including the 2003 Hugo Award for Best Novella, the 2003 Nebula Award for Best Novella, and the 2002 Bram Stoker Award for Best Work for Young Readers.

Random Quote: 
She will take your life and all you are and all you care'st for, and she will leave you with nothing but mist and fog. She'll take your joy. And one day you'll awake and your heart and your soul will have gone. A husk you'll be, a wisp you'll be, and a thing no more than a dream on waking, or a memory of something forgotten.

Keeping Faith by Jodi Picoult


I decided to read this because: I enjoy Jodi Picoult's stories. She always manages to weave a story around something controversial, and this time it is religion.

First line: There are certain things that I don't talk about.

The book in one sentence: Within a disintegrating marriage, a child of a mixed marriage suddenly claims that she talks with a female God, spouting Bible verses, and developing stigmata ... truth or hoax?

I'd recommend it to: Fans of Jodi Picoult. Anyone who wants a quick yet fulfilling read. Someone not scared to think about religious controversy.

I liked: Another of Picoult's dramas based on the controversial topic of religion and miracles. It explores how two religions - Catholicism and Judaism - react to and decide on what is considered as "miraculous." And what if there is an overlap? ... when a Jewish child is the one exhibiting the blatantly Catholic development of stigmata - considered by Catholics as a blessing - all of which has basis in real life?

It examines different angles of faith: from the viewpoint of a Catholic, a Jew (Mariah and her mother), a child (who not surprisingly is named Faith in this story), and surprisingly, an atheist. Another interesting angle is whether God could actually be a woman, again a very controversial yet a debate rooted in real life. Obviously Picoult did her homework!

It also explores relationships,  particularly that of mother and daughter and of a mother's unshakable belief in her child (both Mariah and her mother are tiger mommas.). Initially, one always looks at the simplest explanations for Faith's displays of miracles: is it a ploy to get her parents' attention? is there any evidence of abuse? is it indeed a miracle?

There is also the relationship of husband and wife, and how its disintegration impacts on their relationship with the child. Picoult has a gift for getting into the minds of her characters and I couldn't help but feel for what Mariah was going through.

The story is fast-paced and it that will draw you in and keep you turning the pages. I read this in about a day, anxious as I was to find out the outcome.

I didn't like: The ending. Usually Picoult comes up with an unexpected ending or a bizarre twist somewhere. I guess I was expecting it here. Nothing came.I guess the very premise of the book was the twist in itself.

Verdict: At the least, enjoy it for Picoult's uncanny ability to tell such a plausible and controversial story. At the most, read it and ponder on the many unknowns of life - from the outright miraculous to the everyday miraculous.


Random quote: 
Years ago when I found Colin in bed with another woman, I waited three nights and then tried to kill myself. Colin found me and got me to the hospital. The ER doctors told him they had been able to save me, but that isn't true. Somehow that night, I got lost. I became another person, one I do not like to hear about, one I would certainly not recognize.

Memories of My Melancholy Whores by Gabriel Garcia Marquez


Synopsis of Memories of My Melancholy Whores by Gabriel Garcia Marquez: On the eve of his ninetieth birthday a bachelor decides to give himself a wild night of love with a virgin. As is his habit--he has purchased hundreds of women--he asks a madam for her assistance. The fourteen-year-old girl who is procured for him is enchanting, but exhausted as she is from caring for siblings and her job sewing buttons, she can do little but sleep. Yet with sleeping beauty at his side, it is he who awakens to a romance he has never known.

Quick take

The story is kind of depressing - who wants to hear an old man reminisce about the lovely whores he has slept with? I guess it's a male thing. This is a male's book, some references a la Lolita. So, feminists beware.

But I love Gabriel Garcia Marquez's language that I read this slim volume pretty quickly.

(Full review to come!)

Eats, Shoots & Leaves by Lynne Truss


I have the seventh sense!


Funny! I am one of those people who have a horrible compulsion to edit typos and punctuation; it's actually a relief to hear someone write about it. I am not alone. And wait, I DO have a life, and I HAVE relaxed about correcting people ... lest they get offended.

I did have a few issues with the book. One, it is written for a British audience, and many punctuation rules and examples are British, of course. If you're used to American conventions, the rules may seem "wrong" to you. Two, after reading one chapter on one specific punctuation mark, say the comma, you can get a little fatigued with example after example. So best read this in several sittings.

This isn't a book for everyone. Don't bother with it if ...

  • Bad grammar and punctuation (wrong or lack of) just doesn't grate on your nerves, DON'T bother with this book; it will seem like a mountain was made out of a molehill.  
  • You're NOT interested in proper punctuation. At the least, one needs to keep an open mind.

I think this book would make a great addition to my Strunk and White. Or maybe they should make an Americanized version?

The Curious Incident of the Dog at Night Time by Mark Haddon



I decided to read this because:
I've heard so much about this novel that I need to read it too. If I don't, I may miss out. 

First line: It was 7 minutes after midnight. 

Last line: And I know I can do this because I went to London on my own, and because I solved the mystery of Who Killed Wellington? and I found my mother and I was brave and I wrote a book and that means I can do anything. 

The book in one sentence: A young autistic boy's world unravels as he tries to learn who killed his neighbour's dog.
 
I'd recommend it to: Anyone interested in autism. If you've watched Rainman, this is similar, and just as touching.

I liked: The story, which is bitter-sweet. And our hero, the 15-year-old boy Christopher is such a likable guy. It starts out innocently enough, with Christopher  trying to figure out who killed Wellington, the neighbour's dog. He goes around investigating like his idol Sherlock Holmes and in the process, he discovers the disturbing truth behind his mother's "death." He deals with it somewhat detached and emotionless, compared to how a "normal" person would. Meanwhile, the people around him - his neighbours, his teacher, his father - deal with Christopher with empathy and understanding but doubtless having to deal with problems in their own "normal" way.

How Christopher deals with the harsh realities of life is an interesting insight in the thought processes of someone with autism. Christopher is a savant - brilliant and logical, and able to solve difficult math problems in his head. On the other hand, he has what we would consider as bizarre ways of making sense of the world - he categorizes the days by how many of a particular car color he is able to count (four red cars in a row mean a wonderful day, while four yellow cars mean a bad day, in which case he does not eat lunch and will not speak) - and his system fails when he is in a different routine. When he goes out of his comfortable little zone and into the "real" world  to do some more sleuthing, Christopher somehow makes his coping mechanisms and discovers that he can do anything, empowering himself.

The storyline is interspersed with interesting trivia, diagrams and drawings galore, and lots of Mensa-like problems, all told from Christopher's viewpoint. This is a very interesting diversion from the main storyline. In fact I read the Monty Hall Problem three or four times because it was such a  niggling problem that I had to make sense of. Click here for Mark Haddon's page on Monty Hall. 


I didn’t like: Sometimes the smattering of trivia and mind problems interferes with the story and it can be distracting. How Christopher tells his story can sometimes seem so literal and straightforward, that it can feel numbing at times (fact after fact). The beginning seemed slow and it takes a little work to get into the story, as its not told in the typical way.

Author factoids: In an interview at Powells.com, Haddon said that this was the very first book he had written intentionally for adults. Imagine his surprise when his publisher suggested marketing it to both adult and child audiences!

Verdict: The whole book is like a distraction. But stick to it. Don't speed read. Don't pass judgement. And just go with it and you'll no doubt enjoy it.
Random quote:
"When I am in a new place, because I see everything, it is like when a computer is doing too many things at the same time and the central processor unit is blocked up and there isn't any space left to think about other things… And sometimes when I am in a new place and there are lots of people there it is like a computer crashing and I have to close my eyes and put my hands over my ears and groan, which is like pressing CTRL + ALT + DEL and shutting down programs and turning the computer off and rebooting so that I can remember what I am doing and where I am meant to be going."

Look these up:
{Photo credit}

Stardust by Neil Gaiman


A new-old fairy tale

About Stardust by Neil Gaiman: A breathtaking and magical novel from master storyteller Neil Gaiman. Life moves at a leisurely pace in the tiny town of Wall - named after the imposing stone barrier which separates the town from a grassy meadow. Here, young Tristran Thorn has lost his heart to the beautiful Victoria Forester and for the coveted prize of her hand, Tristran vows to retrieve a fallen star and deliver it to his beloved. It is an oath that sends him over the ancient wall and into a world that is dangerous and strange beyond imagining...

My two cents

Beautifully told story about the coming-of-age of a young man who promises to fetch a fallen star for the woman he loves. He gets more than he bargains for and goes on a journey in Faerie, discovers his roots, and unwittingly discovers his true love and true self.

Good reading for young adults; although younger kids may want to watch the movie instead - the book has some tame sex scenes.

Powers by John B. Olson

Powers by John B. Olson

Summary: “Bury me standing. I must be buried standing.” Powers, the follow-up to John Olson’s Shade (“a must-read for those who enjoy Ted Dekker and Frank Peretti” —Publishers Weekly), introduces a sheltered Gypsy girl named Mariutza. Her grandfather utters a mysterious last request before dying in her arms after being shot by ten cloaked men.

Those same men die before her eyes, but strange powers continue to pursue Mari through the swamps of southern Louisiana where she has always hidden from “the Badness.”

The whole world seems to join in the chase—helicopters, soldiers, government agents, and the police are all trying to kill her. Mari’s only hope of survival is to find Jaazaniah the Prophet, the mythical hero of her grandfather’s bedtime stories. But she has never been outside the swamp or known other humans besides her grandfather and one teacher. How can this lone girl survive the bewildering world of men long enough to find a prophet who might not even exist?

My take: Very well-written suspense novel about a gypsy girl and her search for a prophet. It's a quick read, as the suspense builds up slowly and you want to find out what happens next.

A little confusing in its use of gypsy words -- with no glossary or explanation (e.g. dikh sight, The Badness). But then maybe because this is the sequel ... I didn't read the first book!

I was given this book through the LibraryThing Early Bird Reviewers.

The Double by Jose Saramago


About The Double by Jose Saramago: Tertuliano Maximo Afonso is a history teacher in a secondary school. He is divorced, involved in a rather one-sided relationship with a bank clerk, and he is depressed. To lift his depression, a colleague suggests he rent a certain video. Tertuliano watches the film and is unimpressed. During the night, noises in his apartment wake him. He goes into the living room to find that the VCR is replaying the video, and as he watches in astonishment, he sees a man who looks exactly like him - or, more specifically, exactly like the man he was five years before, moustachioed and fuller in the face. He sleeps badly. Against his own better judgement, Tertuliano decides to pursue his double. As he establishes the man's identity, what begins as a whimsical story becomes a dark meditation on identity and, perhaps, on the crass assumptions behind cloning - that we are merely our outward appearance rather than the sum of our experiences.


My two cents


First line: The man who had just come into the shop to rent a video bears on his identity card a most unusual name, a name with a classical flavor that time has staled, neither more nor less than Tertuliano Maximo Afonso.

The book in one sentence: A high school history teacher discovers the existence of his exact double in all respects, tries to make sense of it, and becomes obsessed with killing him.

I'd recommend it to: Anyone who's read Saramago before. If you're interested in psychological and books that make you ponder into the night, this may be for you.

I liked: 

Again, Saramago makes a story of a seemingly mundane existence - a teacher, an introvert, depressed, with few friends, no real life to speak of - into something interesting.

The premise of the story - of the possibility of having an exact double in this world - immediately reminded me of matter and anti-matter. I was speculating that when Tertuliano Maximo Afonso would eventually meet his double that something stupendous would happen ... spontaneous combustion? (*sarcasm*) Of course, nothing like that did happen.

This is a psychological novel. It examines how a person's core of existence - identity and individuality - is shattered when the improbable and impossible happens. There is a lot of thinking going on, a lot of second guessing, and a lot of stress. And that can get to you, if you really think about it.

I didn’t like 

Saramago's strange storytelling with little or no punctuation and long-winded sentences doesn't really bother me, but it can grate on the nerves somewhat, especially since there were pages and pages of soliloquy and non-action.

And why the emphasis on the name Tertuliano Maximo Afonso, and its insistent repetition throughout the text? I think Saramago was trying to stress that despite the uniqueness of his name, our hero had to contend with the contrary. But again, its repeated use throughout the text was getting tiring.

There were times that the book was slooooowwww. I admit, I skimmed through some sections. This is not a book to read when you are bored. It can be a little clinical at times, like reading through a doctor's notes.

Author factoids: Saramago is a Portuguese writer who was awarded the Nobel Prize for literature in 1998.

Verdict: Once you get past the strange non-punctuation, the heart of the story makes for a compelling and disturbing read. I really need to read Blindness and The Cave soon!

Random quote:
The best way to achieve universal exoneration is to conclude that since everyone is to blame, no one is guilty.

Japanese Women Don't Get Old or Fat by Naomi Moriyama


Here goes. Book reviews K-I-S-S- style. Reposted from my foodie blog.

Ok, so maybe you've heard of the book French Women Don't Get Fat ... obviously this book capitalized on its success. But hey, French women don't have sole dibs on non-fatness. I have always admired that Asian women in general tend to look younger than they usually are.

I decided to read this because: I love Japanese food!

I‘d recommend it to: Those interested in keeping those pounds at bay, Japanese food aficionados, those who are curious what this hype is all about.

 
The book in one sentence: Japanese women live longest and have the lowest obesity rate on earth ... why and how is this possible?

Ok bits: The origins of the book are simple. Naomi, a Japanese who came to the US to study, realized that she retained her slim physique without really trying in Tokyo. She credits it to the fine food her mom used to make her, simple yet fresh home cooking. She set out to try and recreate her mother's Tokyo kitchen in a Western milieu.

The book is a hodegepodge - you get recipes, explanations about Japanese ingredients and where to find them, and Naomi's anecdotes and childhood memories put a personal touch to the recipes as well as the healthy eating advice (mostly her mom's) is scattered throughout.

Probably most important is hara hachi bunme or "Eat until you are 80 percent full." I've fully believed in moderation and shun the idea of having to diet. Moderation obviously makes sense whatever the eating culture you come from.

Based on Naomi, Japanese recipes are based on these "seven pillars"—fish, vegetables, rice, soy, noodles, tea, and fruit.

More sound advice is that food is just an element of healthy living. The Japanese walk a lot. And everyone knows that physical activity is necessary in keeping the weight down.

Serving portions are also key. I have been quite enamoured by how the Japanese package their sweets and cakes, where the visual element is as very much as important as what you are eating, and desserts are packaged in small portions.

I didn’t like: The lack of photos. I'd have loved to see samples of her mother's cooking along with the recipes, as well as snapshots of Tokyo. But then the book may have morphed into a travelogue.


Verdict: Pick and choose the advice found here and I am sure that you'll enjoy the book! I personally would like to get my own copy of this book because of the recipes


Read more here: 

Watch a video of author Naomi and her husband: 

A related video "The benefits of a Japanese diet"

Sucking the marrow out of an otherwise decent book


Finally, FINALLY was able to watch Julie and Julia. I wasn't able to catch it in the cinemas and the online copies were horrible until I chanced upon this copy online.

I read (and loved) the book a few years back. I found Julie's selfishness to cook each of Julia Child's recipes enamouring and just plain funny. I wish I could say the same for the movie.


The movie in one sentence: Two intertwined stories of women who find meaning in their lives through cooking.


What I liked: All the parts about Julia Child. Face it, her life is fascinating, Paris was fascinating, her life with Paul was fascinating. Julia is larger than life. And how Meryl Streep portrayed her was endearing. After watching this movie, you want to know more about Julia Child and how she revolutionized American cooking, look for her cookbook Mastering the Art of French Cooking, and yes, read those obviously cheeky memoirs. (Which unfortunately isn't true for Julie Powell, she was ho-hum).

I particularly enjoyed how the men played supportive (not supporting) roles to the women characters and how married life is lovely. How many men do you know would do the grocery shopping for you, eat your messes AND wash the dishes for you? Or get their photo taken in the bathtub with you?

What I didn't like: Most of the parts with Julie Powell. At least how she is portrayed here. She is weak and whiny, unlike the Julie of the book who is feisty, loud mouthed, and just plain bitchy. Even with the scene of Julie ruing that "I'm a bitch..." it didn't ring true. Amy Adams is much too mild and sweet to be the Julie of the book (sorry Amy, I loved you in Enchanted though). Sigh, a sell-out to make Julie nicer just robbed the movie of the very reason why Julie is abrasive yet so likeable. Her personality in the movie was just plain bland. And she seemed a pathetic character in the movie, sorry to say.

I remember when I read the book that I totally could relate to Julie's reasons to embark on her one-year project ... she wanted to find some meaning in her life. The movie turns this otherwise very personal endeavor into a commercial venture. Julie never expected to get a book deal out of her blogging, she never expected to become famous. And I bet that she never expected a movie!


Food-related stuff: What Julie endeavored to do is nothing to be scoffed at. If you have own food blog, you know the excitement of getting a recipe from a cookbook (or online) with the pretty photo for inspiration ... then having to recreate it on your own. If it's a success, it's all the more sweetened if you and your loved ones enjoy it. And if it's a failure, well, it's an edible one (most times). The major mishaps Julie undertook, i.e. the failed aspics and being the "lobster killer," all made the movie.

Verdict: The movie is a quick enjoyable flick. Watch the movie but don't read the book. Or alternately, read the book but don't watch the movie thinking it'll just be as good. Or, if you can, pretend that the book and the movie have totally nothing to do with each other.

Some links to look up:

My Sister's Keeper by Jodi Picoult


Ethical and moral dilemma 

My Sister's Keeper by Jodi Picoult

This is a great read. How do parents face the horrible quandary of acting in the best interest of their children, when there is conflict of interest within the family? The parents want to save their child with cancer whose only hope of survival is the kidney donation from a perfectly matched donor. The other child, expressly conceived to become that sole organ (blood, or tissues, etc.) donor for her sister ... yet wants "medical emancipation" or the right to choose to donate if she so wishes.

The whole book is heavy reading and a tearjerker. The ending takes a surprising turn.

Dedication by Nicola Kraus & Emma McLaughlin

  • Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Logical illogical rational irrational 

After all the hype of being independent, being one's own person, blah-blah .... the heroine Kate just dumps everything to be with her childhood sweetheart after over a decade. But then, isn't that how we are? Logical, illogical in many things of the heart? *Sigh*

Le Divorce by Diane Johnson



Summary of Le Divorce by Diane Johnson: When Roxanne Walker de Persand's husband leaves her pregnant and alone, she turns for help to her sister, Isabel, but the de Persand family subtly governs her choice for divorce, especially since she has a painting worth millions in her possession.

Quick take: Yes this is chick lit, but it's not fluff. A social commentary of a young woman, family relations, love relations, etc. in France. A good read, realistic.

But if you don't know French, you may struggle a bit when French phrases and sentences find their way into the text.

Becoming Strangers by Louise Dean



Synopsis of Becoming Strangers by Louise Dean: After more than half a century of marriage, Dorothy and George are embarking on their first journey abroad together. Three decades younger, Jan and Annemieke are taking the last in their tumultuous union. At first the luxury of a Caribbean resort is no match for the habits of domestic life. Then the couples’ paths cross, and a series of surprises ensues—a disappearance and an assault, most dramatically, but also a teapot tempest of passions, slights, misunder­standings, and small awakenings that punctuate a week in which each pair struggles to come to terms with what’s been keeping them apart.

Becoming Strangers is a different kind of love story—bitter­sweet, bitingly funny, and ultimately redeeming.

My two cents

What we feel may be shocking as our secret and personal tragedies, may in fact just be what life is all about.

This is one of the saddest stories I have ever read - of lives colliding in a Caribbean holiday - a terminally ill man and his sex-minded wife, an elderly couple in their 80s on one of their first holidays, a so-called Christian man, and a beautiful Chinese woman with a sad story of her own.

Read this with an open mind and reserve your judgements. Because this is the only way we can live our lives sanely.

The House Gun by Nadine Gordimer


A psychological sketch of parents


About The House Gun by Nadine Gordimer (from Library Journal): Harald and Claudia, highly successful professionals (he heads up an insurance company, she is a physician), find their comfortable life in post-apartheid South Africa turned upside down when their only son is accused of murdering one of his housemates, using the communal "house gun" they had purchased for protection. The parents are dumbfounded when Duncan does not deny the crime. How could their son be a murderer, and are they somehow to blame? Duncan acted out of jealousy, but was it heterosexual jealousy or something else? He is going to be defended by a black attorney. Will the attorney's lack of courtroom experience be a liability, or will his race favorably influence the judge? Harald and Claudia are ashamed to find themselves asking these questions.

My take

I felt like I was holding my breath throughout the whole book, expecting something earthshaking to happen. But a third into it, I was still waiting ... halfway into it, still waiting... and when the moment arrived, arrrrggghhh, is that IT?

Not exactly a page-turner, but an incisive look into the psychology of parents to their child. How well do you really know your child? If your son were accused of murder, would you feel obligated to believe him as innocent? To what lengths would you protect your son?

It also examines to a lesser degree white-black relations and power play in South Africa.

Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norrell: A Novel by Susanna Clarke

Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norrell: A Novel by Susanna Clarke

Yes, this is a chunkster! But it isn't a book to speed-read. I loved the imaginativeness of this historical novel-of-sorts which traces the restoration of magic in England.

Fascinating characters in the mousy Mr Norrell, the passionate Jonathan Strange, and my favorite servant Mr Childermass. I enjoyed the sub-stories of Lady Pole and Stephan Black's enchantment by a Faerie, of cause-and-consequence in the world of magic.

Asleep by Banana Yoshimoto


Asleep by Banana Yoshimoto

What can I say, Banana does it again! In three short stories, she manages to capture three women's stories in the entanglement of the simple act of sleeping, love, and of death:

  • a sleepwalker because of a death of lover
  • one haunted by the ghost/memory of a former lover's other girlfriend
  • one who does nothing but sleep because her lover's husband is in a coma. 
Each is written in sparse yet beautiful prose. Each story is a gem with Banana's trademark otherworldliness.


My Son's Story by Nadine Gordimer

My Son's Story by Nadine Gordimer

From Publishers Weekly: Nobel Prize-winning author Gordimer's story of segregated South Africa focuses on Sonny, a black teacher whose revolutionary activities, imprisonment and extramarital affair with a white human rights activist profoundly affect his family. According to PW, "The novel is eloquent in its understated prose and anguished understanding of moral complexities."

Quick take: After a few false starts and stops, I finally got into this extremely well-told tale of apartheid and revolution in South Africa. The beauty of it is that the secret lives of each family member can get so engrossing, that you seem to actually know them.
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